A New Model of Leadership

In my latest trashy regency romance, the heroine Rose is breaking off her engagement to Piers, and she proclaims: “I’ve come to know myself and my capabilities. I’m resilient. While you were out there making treaties, I quietly declared my own independence. I am the sovereign nation of Rose now. And there will be no terms of surrender!”

Rose has figured it out, she’s become the leader of her own life. Effective leadership doesn’t start with managing people; the beginning of leadership starts taking ownership of your life. This means knowing who you are, and what you can offer back to the world. As a former executive and mentor today, I guide those I work with to find their centered, stable place from which to live and lead. This begins with deep self-awareness, the foundation of my new book, Fully Human. The self-discovery I ask you to do sweeps in both your intrinsic motivations, as well how you’re wired. As I grew in leadership, I found I was relying much more on inner principles than outer circumstances. Author, scholar and contemplative Thomas Merton calls this inner place our “point of pure truth”.

What is your point of pure truth? Said another way, what are your principles which connect you to the world?  Only you can define those. From that place of knowing, you can begin to stand with others …to lead them, and be worthy of their trust. In 2018 NYT business columnist Adam Bryant retired from writing his Sunday column Corner Office, where he covered interviews with leaders. Over ten years he’d penned over 5 million words. In his last column, he said that if he had to rank the most important quality of leadership that shone in those interviews, it would be trustworthiness. Self-awareness helps us stay grounded in the best of who we are, which is where we can most readily build trust.

Being a leader of your own life means being true to yourself. If we want kids, what do our lives look like after them? My friend Ebony, a hair stylist, told me that after she’d had her son and was in the recovery room-the recovery room- she got her phone and called her boss. “Roman, put me on the schedule!” she told him. “But Ebony, we’ve just posted your son’s weight on our break room board.” “No matter, I’m coming back!” Ebony, like me, knows her wiring is such that she’s a better mom to her kids because of her career.

Being the leader of our own lives helps us to become emotionally fit.  We tend to our physical, emotional and spiritual dimensions. We need our social tribes who tell us the truth. We need our retreats periodically to sit in the quiet and get a recharge. Our bodies crave some movement, which could be in yoga or a hard gym workout. A fit leader has a strong body, an agile mind and a grounded inner life. Once we lead ourselves, we can then lead others.

Photo by henri meilhac on Unsplash

By |January 17th, 2019|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Sarah Flint Walking the Walk

#walklikeawoman

Sarah Flint’s hand-crafted Italian shoes are a favorite for high-profile women like Amal Clooney, Cindy Crawford, and the Duchess of Sussex.  Cindy Crawford is even an investor and personal mentor in the business.  Behind the excitement and notoriety of celebrity shoe sightings, Sarah is in the business of women helping women and has made “girl power” a cornerstone of her brand.

After serving as an apprentice with shoe artisans in Italy, Sarah launched her namesake line when she was just 25 years old.  In just a few years, she has learned how to design and sell quality women’s footwear that is both sophisticated and comfortable, but doesn’t have the department store markup. 

I met Sarah at a women’s conference and was instantly impressed with her energy and enthusiasm.  It’s easy to see how she’s become such a success.  We’ve stayed in touch and Sarah was kind enough to share with my readers some of her most exciting moments, why she feels so strongly in supporting women, and the best business advice she ever received from Cindy Crawford.

How does it feel to have strong, intelligent women like Amal Clooney, Cindy Crawford, Meghan Markle and many others wearing your shoes? 

    • I am extremely grateful for the way that powerful, successful women (that I am personally inspired by) have embraced the Sarah Flint brand. I am most excited by the fact that these women are truly wearing the shoes in their everyday lives – from traveling the world to grocery shopping at home. To me that means the most, as it shows that they are choosing the brand time and again, not just through a stylist for a red carpet moment. I design shoes that women can live their lives in, and it’s incredible to see women who have all the choices in the world choose Sarah Flint.

I love this from you: “Remember to support the women around you, because girl power isn’t just a saying, it’s the future of the world.”  What does “girl power” mean to you? 

    • I believe that to be feminine is to be powerful – women shouldn’t have to choose one or the other. “Girl Power” means women and girls getting things done and walking into every situation with grace and confidence.

Why do you believe “girl power” is the future of the world?

    • When women come together, there is nothing we can’t accomplish. There are so many amazing women running for office, creating companies, starting movements, and young girls are seeing this and growing up in a world where they are encouraged to turn their vision and passions into reality.

Can you give us 1-2 examples of how you “walk the walk” (in very fabulous shoes) of “girl power” with your female colleagues and clients? 

    • I am lucky to work with amazing women that encourage and inspire me every day – both here in the Sarah Flint office and with our clients all over the world. One of the ways we embrace girl power as a brand is by featuring strong, successful women of different ages and industries through our e-newsletter and social media. I’m very passionate about building a network of incredible women who support each other and sharing their stories with our customers.

 What’s the best advice Cindy Crawford has ever given you?

    • The best advice Cindy has given me is to stay true to myself and our identity as a brand. We don’t need to worry about following trends or the “next big thing” – we believe in style without sacrifice and providing our clients with the absolute best quality at the best price. From the beginning, Cindy has understood my vision for the brand and is full of wisdom – both from a business perspective, and from her own style aesthetic and point of view.

What’s the best advice you can give women, especially those just starting a career?

    • Focus on your mission! Remember your initial inspiration, and why you started in the first place.

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By |January 6th, 2019|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Angels Among Us

Angelique Bovee

Angelique Bovee used to be a boxer.  She rose to great heights, winning U.S. National Boxing Championships, and set her sights on going to the Olympics. But in 2004 and in 2008, when she would have age-qualified, women’s boxing was rejected by the IOC.  In 2012 it finally premiered as the last summer Olympic sport to include women, but at 35 years old, Angel had aged out.

If you meet Angel today, you’d never know she suffered such a grave disappointment. She has a spark in her step and a smile the size of Montana.  She works now advocating for athletes around the world.  Undaunted by her personal set backs, she’s now an employee of the Adecco Group, an enormous global supplier of talent to workplaces.  She’s a career coach for the U.S. Olympic Committee’s Athlete and Career Education program, helping Team USA athletes transition out of that world to whatever might be awaiting them.

Women’s Athlete Business Network Athlete Transition Program

I met Angel at the Ernst & Young partnership program with the global women’s leadership organization called International Women’s Forum (IWF).  Their partnership, called Women’s Athlete Business Network (WABN), is where women from all over the world of elite athletics are given an opportunity to transition, acquire a professional mentor to work with, and then spend a few days together learning from speakers in various disciplines. After two days of professional development they join the larger IWF conference, where they gain insights from the thousands of IWF members present, and from world-renowned thought leaders who speak on panels.

Why does any of this matter? It matters because of what Angel told me. “Surrounded by these women, I feel a sense of belonging.”

As managers who rush through our days to make a deadline or file a brief or attend nonstop meetings, we forget the things that matter to our employees. We forget that they want belonging, a connection to one another and to their leadership. Each of them has a backstory, something that might cause them to feel separate, without a tribe of their own.

This is why affinity groups in organizations matter so much, because we can see ourselves in those around us. We hear their story and it’s ours. We find that precious promise that, with such shared history–with those that get you– you can build trust, the most powerful emotion in any workplace. Teams that trust each other work with focus and speed, and with a minimum of drama.

Bravo to E & Y, IWF and the Adecco Group for recognizing that what most of us seek is to just be ourselves, and to work with others that make it easy to build trust.

And bravo to Angel, who defied the odds, became a national champion, and reaches a hand out to those who use her as their model of what success can look like for them.

 

By |December 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Entrepreneur vs Intrapreneur: So What’s in a Name, Anyway?

Your labels don’t define you, but sometimes you need a few.

What do you call yourself, professionally?

I was talking to my friend and editor Antonella, who’s also reworking my website. She sent me some of the sections to review and update, including the descriptions of “who I am.”

“It now says ‘co-founder HGTV, media executive, speaker, author.’ Are you OK with that?” she asks. “No. Get rid of media ‘executive.’ In fact get rid of ‘executive’ everywhere. It doesn’t describe me now.”

“Ooookay,” Antonella says patiently. She knows when I’m like this she needs patience. “We should add ‘consultant’,” shouldn’t we? You do that.”

“What does that word mean?” I push back. “It’s an empty suit job. ”   

“Should we use ‘coach’?” Antonella ask. “You do, after all, coach women.”

“I hate that word! I think I should show up in sweats with a whistle!”

“You do realize this book you just wrote, Fully Human, is all about self-awareness?” she says, in her snarky way.

I have to laugh at this point. I know what I don’t want to be, but as this brain of mine gets rewired through completely new work, writing, and teaching meditation, I don’t have a simple label for what I’m doing now. All I know is I don’t want to be put in a box. Don’t fence me in! I’ve used a made-up word—intrapreneur—to describe my career as someone who starts businesses and new divisions within existing companies.  I wonder now if I should make up another word.

Define Intrapreneur

It isn’t easy, defining who you are in one or two words, not to mention who you are becoming. There are certain things I’m now doing not because I love doing them, but because they’re a part of what I love to do. I love to speak, but all the handshakes and social time around it not so much. I love writing, but the mental bench press of crystalizing ideas into something simple and clear—that can be grinding.  

And the coaching might be hardest of all because it requires focused listening to an nth degree. I do it because everyone needs to be reminded they’re of value.  Too many of us are convinced we’re not worthy, so we act out in fear or envy or anger. Then the HR bosses are called in to hire people like me.

Maybe it’s harder for women to narrow down the labels that best define them because everyday we’re a lot of things. I see this as an advantage. Many men rise vertically in organizations in a singular way, then they abruptly retire, and drive their loved ones nuts. Or they have heart attacks and die, according to research. We women grow horizontally throughout our lives, partly in response to all the roles we’re asked to play, but also because we have an intuitive sense of our many dimensions. One label could never begin to describe all we do, or all we want to become.

But Antonella wants a word, so give her “entrepreneur.”

It says new beginnings.

By |November 2nd, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Judy Guido: “I Will Live Through This”

Judy GuidoIt’s hard to imagine a person left for dead in a street of Los Angeles would be talking about hope.  Judy Guido’s story is both horrific and hopeful. Once again I’m reminded that two things, seemingly in conflict, can both be true.

I met Judy Guido in LA in the spring of 2014, when I was speaking at an event for a national bank.  Afterward there she was, waiting for me, and we began talking about her work in advising companies on strategy and growth in the ‘green’ industry, including nurseries, large and small equipment manufacturers, and landscape architects. We exchanged cards and promised to stay in touch, which we did.

Judy Guido’s Near Death Experience

I heard from her again a few months ago.  To my shock, she’d spent the former six months healing from multiple stab wounds, including 3 holes in her head, having been attacked by a new landscaper who was on a crew she’d hired for backyard maintenance work. He found a way into her home, and took a pickaxe to her completely out of the blue, saying he had to kill her because ‘the devil’ was there. She somehow maneuvered him into the street so a neighbor might hear her cries for help. As he went after her, he murdered her dog Squirt before her eyes as Judy tried to protect him, then went for her.

One of the first things she mentioned in recounting this horrific story were the heroes, an 18-year old neighbor who saw her on the street, called an ambulance and the police, and his mom, who stayed with her until help showed.  They directed the police down the road to Judy’s home, and when the police got there they knew they had a crime scene. They found this man in Judy’s home, trying to light it on fire. He’s now in custody.

It’s been said the highest form of sanctity is to live in hell and not lose hope. When Judy shared this whole nightmare with me, she said in those moments, before she blacked out, her thinking was crystal clear—I will live through this. Thoughts flashed of her seeing her 11-year old daughter (thankfully in school during the ordeal) grow up, thoughts of protecting the neighbors from him, thoughts of the sheer joy of living one more day. Can there be a higher form of sanctity, of hope?

This past week her court victim advocate called, saying a hearing is imminent. Judy thought this next step would take years, and realizes she’ll need to face the trauma all over again. Today she says hope is about converting her fear into a state of staring it right in the face. “Hope’s a pit remover,” she says. “It takes the pit IN your stomach OUT!”  

I’ve blogged about hope before, because it’s a hugely powerful emotion. It’s one of the 3 “We Principles” I write about in FULLY HUMAN, my new book.  Hope can move us to feel passion for our work, our friendships, our very lives. Judy’s story reminds us of the primal power of hope, which can spur us to do superhuman things, like stare down death.

The picture above is of Judy and me, taken a few months ago. They shaved her head when they did the brain surgery, and it’s now just growing out. She purposely hasn’t trimmed the long side yet, a reminder– we can be left for dead, or left for living a fully human life. It’s a choice we make each day.

By |October 17th, 2018|Grit|0 Comments

What’s #1 in Choosing a Job

I think back to my early summer trip to Australia, with friends Carole and Dee. One morning the two decided to kayak. I declined, wanting a little time one-on-one with Lizard island. As I took my walk, I ran into one of the guys who worked at the resort, and he’d just helped my friends into the kayaks.

“Your friends are out there,” he smiled and pointed to the ocean. “What will you do today?”

“Whatever I want,” I answered, smiling too.

“That’s it, isn’t it?” He looked at me, and nodded.

Here was a fellow, probably my age, who dove in oceans and captained boats and taught others what he knew. He seemed to have found a magic formula, which begins with knowing what you love to do. Then doing it, which transforms those 8 or 10- hour days to moments live with fun and purpose.

Really enjoying what you do starts with good “job fit”.  In other words, doing work that’s true to how you tick. In my new book, Fully Human, I have a chapter about job fit. I kick it off with John Clark’s story, a friend who graduated college as an engineer and worked in his field for 20 years, but secretly yearned for a new start. While living in San Francisco he and his wife, Sue, fell in love with the coffee shops springing up there, and he conjured up a dream to start his own coffee line. To make the dream real, the Clarks cut up their credit cards, and moved to the southeast where housing was more affordable. John started with a used roaster he bought for a song on EBay, and eventually founded Vienna Coffee House, a hugely successful brand of coffee and teas in the southeast U.S.

Why can’t we do what we love, and love what we do? I know we all need a paycheck, but we can cut up our credit cards too; it’s just too important.  The first job, our primary one, is to do the work of knowing ourselves. What fires you up? If you asked your best friend that question about you, what would they say?  Then take some risk to follow that path, because the truth is, clinging to what you already know could be a greater risk: your work could become a life sentence.

The opposite can happen too—you can begin in work you love, and over time it morphs into a life sentence. My media distribution work changed over the years from relationship building, which I could do authentically, from the heart, to hard-core legal negotiations. I could do that work with forced effort and will, but my heart wasn’t in it. And truthfully, my DNA wasn’t well aligned for it. Fortunately I had plenty of things to do with other areas I supervised, so I staffed a distribution team who enjoyed the daily shenanigans with our irascible clients, and I assisted with strategy, resource deployment and being the final voice of the company when needed.

Work can be a vocation. The word ‘vocation’ is rooted in the Latin word for ‘voice,’ or calling.   The Irish writer David Whyte worked as a naturalist guide on the Galapagos Islands until there came a time for him to transition to a “larger language than science.”(1) Today he is an internationally acclaimed poet and wisdom teacher. He found the larger language that was true to him.

If you’re lucky enough to consider not just the paycheck, but making work choices with heart, follow what it’s telling you.

(1)”Crossing the Unknown Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity”

By |August 20th, 2018|Business and Finance, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Writing with Pencils

Whenever I travel I bring along five or six pencils. Pencils are what I write with now, ever since my first book. I hate the mess of crossing thru things written in ink, some part of me urging neatness on the page. So it was completely natural for me to fill out my customs form, entering Australia, in pencil. The customs officer was very worked up about this, scolding me for this huge violation–maybe not criminal but certainly a violation of basic common sense. I finally moved through under her skeptical eye.

I just returned from a wonderful holiday in Australia with two good friends, Carole and Dee. This trip showed me that on any given day, we live in an enormous world, but unless we push outside our own neighborhoods, we only get to see a tiny part of it. I learned that Australia is a younger country than the US. It was settled in the 1830’s, so our country is looked upon as “historical” to them. While there, I befriended kangaroos, a wonky-looking animal that was quite lovable, and one night at dusk, we watched hundreds of penguins spill out from the ocean, a nightly ritual of coming back home.

At the Great Barrier Reef, we swam with sea turtles, and I learned that the little island where we were staying, right in the heart of the GBR, has granite foundations over 300 million years old. Ancient rocks, new country. We snorkeled and saw an ocean teaming with aquatic life, brilliant colors bouncing off the coral and giant clams opening and closing to one’s touch. Sadly, I observed how horribly we’re treating the ocean, how our disposable habits are sending toxic carbons into the water, and killing off the coral which preserves marine life. The GRB, the size of fifty million football fields, feeds a half a billion people annually. But not for long, not the way we’re polluting it.

Our oceans and seas comprise most of our earth, and they give and they take, as we tragically witnessed first-hand one afternoon. Not far from where we snorkeled there was a fatal accident: A young resort worker drowned while snorkeling on his day off. The calamity stopped us all in our tracks—those working at this place, and the guests who were there (the three of us, and a small handful of others) as the first responders brought him to shore and tried to revive him. The staff labored for over an hour, while his larger work community bound a tight circle around him, as if the sheer force of their collective kinship could bring him back. Later, we all grieved. It rained nonstop that night.

This enormous, world, a Grand Teacher, reminds me that in a split second, everything can change. Just when we’re having the time of our lives, something can pull us back with the force of whiplash, a teacher of how fragile all of life is.

So I write in pencil, a way for me to stay humble when moments like that afternoon occur, to often erase and re-learn what I’m taking in, and how I respond to it. I have newfound respect for things not made with hands—the ancient granite, our oceans, the marine life that sustains and nourishes. When I pay attention, I can see how our whole chain of life is linked together.

By |May 21st, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Two Leaders, Called By Other Names

Recently some friends and I traveled to Nashville, to hear from Thistle Farms founder Becca Stevens.  Becca began a program 20 years ago to help women victims of sex trafficking, and it’s been remarkably successful.  80% of Thistle Farms survivors have jobs and have stayed clean and sober after a five-year snapshot. My friends and I are thinking of starting a sister organization where we live since two of the largest national interstates cross in our community, and sex trafficking has become a growing issue.

A key to their success is jobs. Becca shows us a chart of their many partner organizations (“let the experts help you”), and we tour the manufacturing facility she created from scratch, staffed by the survivors, (“The workforce is our mission”), where they make body lotions, soap and healing oils for sale (“let your products tell your story”). She reflects on these women, who are poster children—many not much older than children– for overcoming adversity.

“We teach them new life skills. Many of the women were sexually abused as children, and one goal is for them to learn how to sleep in a bed, instead of in a chair. They were raped in beds, so thinking of beds as comfort is a process.” Stories like these take my breath away.

For the book I’m writing, a leader I’m highlighting reminds me of Becca. He is Greg Boyle, founder of Homeboy Industries. Greg, who most call ‘G,’ works with gangs in LA and transforms these lost kids into loving, contributing members of the LA community. Again, the key to it all is jobs. He created Homeboy Industries, where they do silkscreen work, merchandising, maintenance, and own and staff a café too. By allowing them to feel useful, he helps these kids gain self-accountability and self-respect. The workforce is his mission too.

Oh a detail—both Becca and G are priests.  I call them priest-entrepreneurs, because they both started new businesses for their organizations which bring in millions, and provide jobs for those they serve. I’m convinced either could run a billion dollar business better than some who run them today.

We don’t hear much about leaders like Becca and G; instead, the media likes leaders who act like children, or narcissists who are motivated by arrogance and greed. The more sensational the person the better, because that means readers and ratings. I get it. I was in that business.

But how about shining a light on leaders like Becca and G? These two grown-ups know who they are, and what they can offer back to the world. They lead from a centered, stable place, and inspire their people every day by offering them jobs, compassion, and solidarity. They stand with their people, not above them. Because they do, each young man and woman recalibrates what is possible for them, what it means to find purpose. Like oxygen, people breathe in hope at Thistle Farms and Homeboy. We could all use a shot of hope every day.

These leadership stories are worth covering.

By |April 27th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

One Outrageous Woman

I’m so lucky to talk to inspiring people in the writing I do. Here’s the story of a woman I spoke with this week.

On 9/11, Maureen Casey was running toward the Towers when everyone else was running away.

Her job at that time was New York Police Department’s Deputy Commissioner, a job equivalent to a 3-star uniform member of the service. Not too long before that time, the Department uncovered 16,000 unanalyzed rape kits. “The Medical Examiner’s Office didn’t have the capacity to handle the volume. The scope and scale of something like this had never been done, and I kept being told ‘It can’t be done,’ and I kept pushing back, ‘Wrong answer.’ She found three private forensic labs, got the kits analyzed and as a result of her leadership, they linked hundreds of cases and identified thousands of perpetrators.

Then 9/11 happened.

“I felt the first plane hit. (Her offices were six blocks from the World Trade Center). I saw the second plane hit from my window. I responded to the Towers, and helped to set up a command post for responding police officers.”

Maureen’s work with DNA evidence came back full force, as she was asked to head up the work to collect samples from the families of those missing in order to identify the remains of victims. This was another enormous undertaking. “One month later we had the anthrax outbreak, and on Veterans Day we had a plane crash in Queens. Some of this gets lost because of 9/11, but the work we did with DNA changed how the country handles mass disasters and fatalities.”

You’d probably stop here and think, what a career. What an impact she’s had! But Maureen didn’t stop there.

“I was so moved by the level of commitment I saw from those who were first responders and then later from those who volunteered to enlist in our military and put themselves in harm’s way after 9/11. When I was offered a job at JPMorgan Chase & Co. to develop and oversee a program for transitioning military, veterans and their families, I said yes.

“We started with 11 companies to include JPMorgan Chase, and committed to hire 100,000 veterans in 10 years. We reached our initial goal in 3. The Coalition of companies has grown to more than 200 and when I left more than 200,000 veterans had been hired and we also helped them with housing, education and training.”

She is now Chief Operating Officer for the Institute for Veterans and Military Families (IVMF) at Syracuse University.

“One of the biggest worries for veterans when they return home is the community they return to. They’ve gone from ready-made neighbors and military life, to this new world of civilians. Will they fit in? In some ways, we serve as a translator for them. We help them with everything from how to present themselves in an interview or translate what a platoon commander or an infantry role means in a hierarchy of responsibility, budget responsibility and people to manage. Through the IVMF at Syracuse University we offer a number of programs, including one on entrepreneurship, which is a very strong career option for all veterans but in particular disabled veterans. They are very successful small business owners.”

When I asked her the lessons she learned, she said what matters is leaving things a little better than how you found them.

Stories like this woman’s get lost in the media noise around Kim Kardashian’s outrageous new make-up formula, or nine foods that can calm your overactive bladder. Maureen’s story is the outrageous one, a luminary, accomplished woman, who embarks on life with humility and grace.

Rabindranath’s poem came to mind after we talked—”I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted, and behold, service was joy.” In this time of Hope and Promise, my wish for all of us is to hear about more people like Maureen.

By |December 18th, 2017|Advocacy for women|0 Comments

Running the Distance

It’s autumn, which means it’s time for the New York Marathon again. I always smile when the promotion hits for this race because I ran it a few years back, and it taught me a lot about life and work.

I trained with a book my HGTV colleague Jim Clayton let me borrow, and its philosophy for training was to only run 15 miles, not the full 26.2 miles you run when you’re competing. The logic was that you want to save some of the experience for the real race. If you go the distance before you run in the actual race, you might as well give yourself a medal and be done with it. OK, I could buy into that. I gradually trained over six months, adding miles to my run as the book prescribed, stopping at the 15-mile mark.

My husband Bill joined me in NY for the big weekend, not to run but to the cheerleader I needed. I was really nervous, but it was gorgeous fall weather to be out in, crisp and sunny. Before I knew it all of us were all off and running.

The miles flew by, just like in practice. NY locals flanked the streets yelling out encouragement. “Hey 41 (my number) you’re looking great! Keep it going 41! We’re with you!” They’ll never know how inspiring those words were, especially as I rounded the bend to press on beyond mile marker 15. Would my body hold out for the last 11 miles? It’s really no different than when you face any new skill or challenge you haven’t mastered yet. I felt anxious, but exhilarated too.

Bill and I’d made a plan that he’d been standing on mile marker 19. From the map it looked like a place where I could see him in the crowd, and it also was a point in the race where I’d need the reinforcement of having him there. I turned the corner to mile 19 and there he was, a tall guy with long arms waving madly at me. I started crying. And stopped running.

I was spent. My pace had gotten so slow that I was in a cluster of elderly runners. He saw my face and barged right into the race. (NY is a pretty loosely-regulated marathon). “What are you doing?” he asked me. “I’m done,” I explained. “I’ve run 19 miles, it’s further than I’ve ever run in my life. I’m done.”

Bill was quiet as we slowed to walk and finally he said, “OK, but I know you. I think tomorrow you’ll be sad you didn’t try to finish.” “Please help me finish!” I then cried in anguish. So he did. As he accelerated his stride, he told me stories and jokes to take my mind off the pain, and I began a slow jog. For the last mile he was just by my side, breathing with me, a trusted companion in those challenging final moments, and yep, I finished.

When we built HGTV we kept telling ourselves this was a marathon, not a sprint. The six guys and I were inseparable those first few years, celebrating as we passed the business mile markers we’d set, and sharing the failures too. In one nasty setback, we sat in a room together, quiet, before we dissected the mistake. We had a mourning moment before starting the race again. Like Bill, these trusted companions were at my side both in the most exciting, and most challenging of times. None of us could have done it alone. We ran the distance together to build a lasting business.

By |October 25th, 2017|Career development, Uncategorized|0 Comments